Lived in London for a year and a half later, I have recently moved back to Melbourne. When people ask me, away from home for so long, it will not be nearly nostalgia mood, I must admit, I can. But this is not because I was worried about after one of the world's most bustling city life too, will feel left behind or laugh at me because I was afraid someone infected with a strange speech habits (I will now say 'five-thirty' instead of 'half past five'). My concern stems from the fact that entirely: My friends are all married.
In London, almost all of my friends still single - although dew love and consort uncommon thing - keep the energy business done fast, or enjoy exploring Europe. Back to Melbourne after drying diamond engagement ring and wedding pictures on Facebook from the notification letter suddenly began flying between the. Although I am happy for friends, but at the same time, my heart ached because of self-pity, because I know that in our image, like Noah's Ark, everyone must be in pairs society, my single the state will be more garish. Why do I know almost everyone can find the other half lives between twenties to twenty teens do?
Inside all my friends, I have been the perennial single heterogeneous. Boyfriends are always long, probably because I admire singers and artists are too offbeat it, but to be honest, I rarely do this annoyance. For me, the boyfriend is like icing on the cake, not the cake when everything else - work, life planning, I feel - good all the time, have a boyfriend can make life sweeter. Like most people, I am also eager to fall in love, and I deeply care about a person go to the end, total group family, but I never believed in order to get married and get married that it exists.
Sometimes, because I would affect the single life and feel frustrated, but this is mainly due to very practical considerations. For example, if I want to talk to people sharing, looking for a space of their own, and then the files compared to other couples, I would have to pay two equal money. Another example, if I have a family room with a bunch of friends go on vacation, so I was not only live together on a sofa bed or folding mattress, but comfortable room with double bed missed out?
Ultimately, though, so I like a loner status, others seem even than my own problems. Let me fatigued question is "how do you not find a boyfriend yet?" And the other side is often in a weird, somewhat shocked tone ask. The implication seems to be saying: "But you too maverick willing to do you could not find the person you want to do!?" Sounds like the praise in fact humiliate you. So ask the subtext is, the reason why a single woman, because nobody wanted, and not be out of choice or her own life plan. Moreover, people look at a woman to love as a top priority in the world, is a single urgent problem, if you do not rush to grab your nearest, you expressed an interest in even the slightest fleeting man, people will inevitably have to your lives.
"How do you not find a boyfriend yet?" This question is often accompanied by platitudes, the same frustrating below about the man, and that is "good man has the Lord." Our society seems unable to accept such an idea: Some people voluntarily remain single, or want to wait for a better object appears. But at least "bachelor" image kinda face. They are Playboy, they want to get married too cool, they are busy pleasure, every minute of every day and they will not hear the loud ticking of the biological clock. Single women do, on the contrary, is always portrayed as sad hopeless spinster, and life are burdened with tape maiden name at birth (ie, our own name).
The truth is, I pick. Most people seem to misunderstand this as "I only see a sportsman stars Ryan Gosling as a man." But actually, I want to have a look and soul attracted me dating - By way of explanation, I mean neither attractive appearance means "clear muscles, Sweden had to look like actor alexander Skarsgard as handsome pressing, "not like the appearance of a man looking for the other half when the request is so can compromise.
Some people because I do not want to compromise on appearance and quite confused, and even - let me dare say - find it difficult to accept. Friends told me that more than once, as long as it was about, I should go out with him, no matter how I thought this thought. Why I can not keep a person feeling were dating? Especially for people to see I finally have a partner in this matter only benefits. (And, in fact, it will distract my time and energy, and I could make better use of them, to do everything I can to improve themselves).
The point is, marriage is a huge responsibility, you need to pay a lot, although I'm sure a lot of the benefits of marriage, but I do not think you have not found the right person when finalized, would be a good thing for you. To find a standard man - both in appearance and internal attracts you, you with him inexplicable sparks, "dth -" to produce a chemical reaction and emotional ties - and the same with you time to pursue the same things, people and lifestyle goals and dreams with your match - not easy, but I do not intend to lower their standards laid down.
Even if it means I have to sleep in the guest house indefinitely folding bed, that I can accept.
(Author: Erin Translator: late summer)
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