Like everyone else, I can not concentrate. When I should work, open the when you should be concerned about the person in front, I'm texting. I spent a few hours, watch some pretty funny videos on YouTube. ( "Look, there is a group of people can use beer bottles playing" Billy King "[Billie Jean]!") Like everyone else, for those general ban on preaching, I nodded in agreement - To reduce the contact information! Do not do a few things a while! Turn off all equipment, least once a week!
Like everyone else, this preaching to no avail. Many of us who are in a state of lax attention, unable to focus on things that should be concerned. Tony Schwartz (Tony Schwartz) and Christina Porat (Christine Porath) Sunday "New York Times" published an article views mentioned a survey, the survey showed 66% of employees can not focus on every on one thing. 70% of employees at work is not regularly innovation or strategic thinking time.
Given the ban on preaching style has no effect, I think we can learn skills for use by children, after all, they are very good at learning things.
I recently accidentally saw "Paris Review" (Paris Review) for senior child psychologist Adam Phillips (Adam Phillips) interview. Phillips said, first, the purpose of knowledge adventure, children need a secure social basis:
"It was there, but he will not interfere with your own needs, you do not need to request him - early growth have such an experience which is very important to create a space can make people concentrate on the heart. to concentrate, people must feel safe enough, just like a shield to protect, or someone to help you defend against danger, for example, you can 'forget self', completely immersed in the book. "
Second, threw himself into before, children will be a strong impetus to the desire of this strong desire to make people panic. "Something interesting about children is that they have much appetite," Phillips said. "Not only is much of their appetite, and their appetite will be the extent to make them feel tangled. Any child will remember that children are very picky about food ......"
"This means that a person's desire to have a very scary place, so that people will try in a very specific, limited, narrow way to restrain the desire ...... The reason that desire terrible, because it in a very unexpected way to connect you with the world ...... everyone needs to face the question: how much energy they can come up with, you need to intoxicate themselves to what extent. "
Third, children do not have egos too heavy a burden: "We are still a child, before adults understand words, you need to listen to them speak after all, is our initial situation - the beginning, we do not understand. . "children become accustomed to the rich emotional experience, but can not use language to express. They do not want to worry about their own lives to organize, organize into a simple narrative. Their life experience is more direct, because they do not spend so much time thinking about their own touch.
Childhood experience tells us that if you want to win the attention of the war, do not say those trivial interference information hodgepodge found "no"; but to try to evoke the horrible desire something to say "yes "then let this terrible desire other things away.
The desire to find a horrible way is to liberate yourself from the limitations of self-labels out - you often misunderstood in their own process, give yourself labeled various labels. The old rules are often tedious, Phillips said: ".. Only to face his own dark side, you can recover your desire (perhaps more than one) as to understand their significance lies in the desire to curb anxiety as arising"
So: To be able to attract your attention to external things, rather than what you think you are the man. And you have to find some people who like the same. People now do not use common way to communicate with them - such as "brainstorming" (that no use) or hanging from the meeting of the projection screen.
See how children learn through the group. They alone will be found, but their findings will go to the team. Then team members will come together to solve problems through discussion. In the dialogue which we can solve the conflict and digested by others, confusion and uncertainty. If the discussion group set itself a specific problem, but also set a time limit draw answers, then people in the course of casual conversation, might own ideas surprised.
The world of information with a moderate joy lure you, but these things are very fundamental points fetish numb. The only way to keep your real life way is to dig your obsessions. There, you may be able to satisfy their terrible desire towards steps forward. That can bring pleasant experience.
(From: The New York Author: David Brooks)
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