"If you want to go get married get married, want to maintain a single single, anyway, in the end you have to regret it." George Bernard Shaw's words seem to have explained the confusion in this question, in any case choose, and later is definitely a "regret." The results really so?
There are people who want to get married, she is anxious to wed in marriage siege, who wants to enter? Who came? In the end what to do?
The marriage produced
I am from Beijing Zhoukou, Yuanmou you come from, I hold your hairy hands, let us walk upright love.
After listening to this piece I laughed and said it came out of primitive society marriage produced. Why do we want to get married? This is not a unique product of our personal preference, but the product of human evolution.
The so-called primitive society of marriage, is a gregarious instinct attribute higher life, the laws of nature will use the power of opposites attract, so that the life of mammals thrive. So it seems that marriage is generated reproduction needs, if there is no marriage, there will be a lot of blood disorder, is not conducive to people of good breeding.
Primitive society, survival is the first major theme, raising baby eat regularly live tour, the biggest advantage is that we can live better, with mechanisms to protect this marriage, this relationship more durable. However, the next few thousand years of human civilization evolved to such an extent, although the marriage does not change the original intention, in addition to the ever-changing variety of Marriage, we find that today's society, whether children or survival, marriage is not a "necessity." When economic independence can settle everything, why should we get married?
Modern marriage dilemma
However, "to find a reliable person to live" or big topic. There did not want to get married, you want to hurry to get married there, and look at each of these people are what people?
The groups want to get married: a perfect marriage, it should be a body, and soul can accompany life with your friends, but such a person is a small probability event. Some people want to change the current marriage, living conditions, access to superior material life, this may more women, because women often have to bear the cost of marriage is much higher than men. If we add the cost of growth, almost more one-sided. Hurry and want to marry a man what? In addition to secular pressures and the environment, the life of men who need care the more likely to want to get married, these two strong demand for marriage, because they profit from the marriage.
The modern marriage is more psychological satisfaction level. We are born alone individuals, we are faced with illness and death, have lost gains and losses, need the we are faced with life's petty trivial broken, need we are faced with a better bit by bit, we need to share. Let marriage less powerful mind is not so lonely. Modern lovers getting married because of companionship: "find a friend of the soul", so as to accompany and complete life, not alone. These words, probably say a lot of people's voices.
Want to get married groups: those flies pretty good single people, to the age of marriage or single, has become everybody's eyes freak, economic independence, and personality are independent, there is a world full of spirit, life is extremely amateur rich, even a baby born baby keep people get all-around (IVF), people are living in such a way, that there is little incentive to get married? For such people, they always say do not encounter the "right" people, the reason is very simple, two people together, either psychologically or physiologically are certainly better than a person's time, human beings are willing to accept that point compromise and concession, if not, then what? The more single, more single.
Marriage can solve the dilemma it?
It happens sometime backfire, marriage really solve the dual physical and psychological demands it? Stop dreaming! Love is the driving force of the two sides together, but life requires mutual adjustments, once married, two people even put two people into the ride. This has been used to couple two of the world is undoubtedly a threat, they are afraid they can not properly deal with these unknown problems, say that marriage is the tomb of love is not unreasonable.
Those eager to change their marriage material life of the people may be able to fulfill their wishes, because the real conditions set out can always be tracked in real life, but it must be cost-effective it? Women more than men assume parenting and family responsibilities after they get married, this is a worthwhile thing Lengnuanzizhi.
Those who expect the marriage to make themselves more happy people may be more not so lucky. Happy or not, to a large extent it is the individual's own experience and the administration. Too many people want to make their own satisfaction obtained through marriage benefits, but unwilling to take adequate pay.
After marriage, the other party will be able to give you happiness and want to live it? Then we can look at the parents' lives, and life is full of mundane daily life, it has also been a constant noise. The happiness this matter, rely on an individual's ability to be happy.
In fact, to marry and married is very easy to marry off, in order to marry and married people more peace of mind. Duchamp said: a person's life does not have to burden too heavy, do not have to do too many things, not necessarily to have a wife, kids, car, house. These are not necessarily happy, unfortunately, none of these are not necessarily the key, do not you think it over?
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