Gender differences sometimes like the Berlin Wall, it is so glamorous and noble stand in between a nice ring, so that people can not hear can not see each other. Whether intimacy or ordinary friend, if elaborate on those differences between the two sides by walls spaced, may allow them to better get along.
First, intimacy
In an intimate relationship among men pay more attention to while women communicate.
The brutal facts about communication, female vocabulary is 30,000 a day and men 7,000, yes you read that right they are not in the same order of magnitude. If a man accustomed to each other's nagging dull or too much to complain problem, the problem is that men are also less empathy.
What's empathy? Speaking is simple and crude: the sense of touching. When you look at each other's facial expressions and body language, the brain's perception and action share emotional system will simulate the emotions and thoughts of others at this time, which contributes to the formation of empathy and understanding. Someone in the street put a lonely little girl back then the statistical probability of passers-by to help. The data is then 1/3 of women but only 1% of men. They are particularly good at emotional communication and not particularly good at this area a couple of brain imaging were compared, and found that the male brain is responsible for emotions and empathy prefrontal part of far less active women. Men Faced with this dilemma, such as a woman heart undersea needle sigh, could never hope to understand a woman, and so on.
How can you make sense of what that woman? Imagine if she said something, and then you hear both the literal meaning, but also understand the implication, but also understand the need behind to reach this realm, I think the man claiming to be her soulmate Well no problem (One psychological survey: your soul mate look like). It is said that when you love someone when feeling TA glow, tie crowd instantly recognizable. This is because all your attention focused on the TA body, so that you can concentrate on the information TA expressed more sensitive, and more accurate, so that to achieve a better understanding. Most implication through body language, read body language that is required to use the five senses, focus on the feelings of each other's face sound, then exchange the atmosphere and the like. And read each other's needs is more difficult, because you have to think of yourself as the other side, the other side of the integrated personality, upbringing and so on thought patterns and even to speculate. At this point, after all, you are using your own brain, so the accuracy of the results based on extensive understanding of each other on the basis of. With the deepening of mutual understanding degree, you will find that interact with TA gradually become sincere and interesting, TA up to just a little hint, then you will understand, this is not is the legendary heart have citizenship.
Next came the sex confession of a man known as "man this thing," basically talk about sex, the author has been to explain human nature from the point of view. Freud also issues seen as the root of all psychological problems. Others said the men would think about sex every 5 seconds. These are certainly not accidental. The importance of sex for men really should not be underestimated.
Pressure make men lust, while women are the opposite. So when men busier, more likely to have an affair. If a woman's point of view, that the "considerate" Sir, Mr. time to rest, he might take a neutral do? Ah, you may be looking for a third party to obtain comfort and considerate. When women feel tired, there is no interest in sex when men will think she does not love him. He will be jealous, possessive strong, physiological reality prompted him to look for the presence of another man. If the wife did not want to have sex with him, she must have another wife, he can not avoid such thoughts, how misunderstood thus produced.
So what to do?
To the other man slow to anger written on his face, he will soon know each other angry, so want him to guess when he might in a daze, it is better to tell him directly.
France and Britain had such a case: As women premenstrual dysphoric disorder and crime, with his aunt to prove temporary insanity, so as to defend themselves successfully. Do not mess with a woman, especially a woman near the aunt.
Second, between ordinary friends
Female Friendship is the most precious symbol of exchange secret when she tells you a never told anyone the secret, you know you are her close friend, the most intimate friend.
Boys is different, they do not want others to know the deepest secret. Boys focused on activities, not talk. Four boys can spend a whole day playing video games together without saying a word, you'll hear shouts of excitement because of the score or lose points for angry curses, but you will not hear the chatter.
I fraternizing with a playmate for years even if contact not feel awkward, and female friends must communicate from time to time, otherwise they will feel more and more strange. Friendship is probably because men and women with similar interests in the establishment of friendship built on each other's lives involvement extent of it. So, for your male friends may try to become the playmate of his female friends and for her relatives do better, such as those popular Yoshie.
Girls friendship relatively intimate, private, when girls under pressure, she will seek support and when the girls are not happy, it is best to stay with her.
Boys are completely different, the boys when under pressure, he wanted to be alone, so it is best to let him be quiet. Many mothers do not understand this situation, when she saw her son troubles, often wanted to comfort him, the results end up being his son out of the room and refused to comfort her, which at the turn of the mother in a bad mood.
Girls friendship of the two sides on an equal footing while maintaining the most long. If you think your friends than hello, then your friendship will not last long. Boys disproportionate relationship is very natural that the party even though he is relatively low, there is no problem. So when dealing with boys and girls probably were level from the bottom of my heart.
Third, the common needs of men and women
Maslow grouped together in love and belonging hierarchy of needs theory, the concrete is to understand and be understood, unconditional acceptance, solitary solace and support each other. Therefore, in addition to respecting the differences between men and women, there are many needs the joint efforts of both sides, because of space limitations not carried out.
Having said that, I hope, sirs helpful in getting along with the opposite sex in the process.
(Author: Roll Snowman)
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